Reframe (verb): To express words or a concept differently I’m a good student, pretty well suited for written exams, but I am (James can verify this) so terrible at unlearning things. That doesn’t mean that I remember everything, rather that …
The Invisible Line
The Norm (noun): Something that is usual, typical, or standard It’s just occurred to me, that there’s a very definite line. There’s a point at which society is comfortable and accepting of bereaved parents, but where is it? Let me …
Invite, Acknowledge, Repeat
Optionality (noun, finance): The value of additional optional investment opportunities available only after having made an initial investment. The short-term payoff for this is modest, but the optionality value is enormous. I’ve gauged from the ‘official’ readership of this blog …
My Best Friend
Going nuclear (figurative): To get extremely angry and start behaving in a forceful or irrational way I am quite frankly, stunned, at the number of ‘my best friend’ stories amongst the bereaved mothers club. Best friends who we grew up …
Conversations with a Loss Mum
Epiphany (noun): A moment of sudden and great realisation Anna is a fictional bereaved mother, but let’s face it, we have all been Anna. Except, we all stopped short of Anna’s conversations didn’t we? So I’ve drawn a line. I’ve …
Choose Happy
Hats off to you (phrase): Used to express congratulations to someone or something You can choose your friends You can choose what you eat You can “choose kind” (a quote/idea from one of my fave books, Wonder. There’s a character …
Hiding From Hope
Cruel (adjective): Wilfully causing pain or suffering to others People have reflected that my blogs seem sadder lately, which I’ve found surprising. I actually think I’m doing better. Yes these are the thoughts in my head, yes I’m still sad …
The Window
Triple glazing (noun, British): Triple glazing is effectively three panes of glass. This means it has an extra layer of glass to insulate your home over double glazing I’ve spoken previously about feeling like I’m stood outside a window, peering in. Glimpsing …
Baby Loss Bingo
Bingo (noun): A game in which players mark off sections on cards, the winner being the first person to mark off all their sections Roll up, roll up for baby-loss-bingo! The one game you don’t want to win! If you …