Epiphany (noun): A moment of sudden and great realisation Anna is a fictional bereaved mother, but let’s face it, we have all been Anna. Except, we all stopped short of Anna’s conversations didn’t we? So I’ve drawn a line. I’ve …
Baby Loss Bingo
Bingo (noun): A game in which players mark off sections on cards, the winner being the first person to mark off all their sections Roll up, roll up for baby-loss-bingo! The one game you don’t want to win! If you …
5 months in, 5 months out
Spam (noun):Unsolicited messages sent over the Internet, typically to a large number of users Today is a milestone, not a real one, but my made-up one. This is how my mind works, it just creates something from nothing. Like last …
The Deathbed
Going full circle (Anjulie-ism, made up phrase): To be born and to die on the same date Because my dad passed away when I was 11 years old, I started working backwards, from my own deathbed. I started making decisions …
Fine
(Adjective): Excellent or much better than average (Adjective): Good enough (Noun): Sum to be paid as a punishment. Hi, this is not Anjulie. This is James. First off, apologies. People often seem to comment on Anj’s flair for writing, but …
That Poor Camel
The straw that broke the camel’s back (proverb): Describes the seemingly minor action that causes an unpredictably large and sudden reaction, because of the cumulative effect of small actions You’ve heard the above proverb, right? Well this is going to …
Labels
Taboo (adjective): A subject prohibited or restricted by social custom Some labels you can’t choose: I’m female, I’m in my 30’s, I’m of Indian origin. Some you can: I work in the City of London, I love to travel. Some …
A Pathetic
Apathetic (adjective): Showing or feeling no interest, enthusiasm or concern I care about so little at the moment, so little about the things that used to fill my days – social occasions, trips away, family drama, birthday presents, politics – …
Out Loud
Sheltered (adjective): Protected from difficulties or unpleasant realities I’ve been vocal about baby loss… From the privacy of my own home. I’ve written about how it all feels… From the security of my desk and computer monitor. I’ve touched people …
Then and Now
Defining moment (noun): An event which typifies or determines all subsequent related occurrences For anyone dealing with bereavement, there’s always a ‘then and now’, a ‘before and after’. I’m feeling so angry at the moment, I can’t shift it, so I’m …