Taboo (adjective): A subject prohibited or restricted by social custom Some labels you can’t choose: I’m female, I’m in my 30’s, I’m of Indian origin. Some you can: I work in the City of London, I love to travel. Some …
Today
Backwards (adverb): Of an object’s motion, back towards the starting point Usually when I blog, I have a rough idea of what I want to write about. Today I’m just writing through tears, trying to figure out what’s wrong. Why …
Out Loud
Sheltered (adjective): Protected from difficulties or unpleasant realities I’ve been vocal about baby loss… From the privacy of my own home. I’ve written about how it all feels… From the security of my desk and computer monitor. I’ve touched people …
Agony
Torture (verb): The action or practice of inflicting severe pain on someone as a punishment In my processing grief journal, I wrote that losing a child is torture. What I didn’t notice is how so much of it is self-inflicted. …
Then and Now
Defining moment (noun): An event which typifies or determines all subsequent related occurrences For anyone dealing with bereavement, there’s always a ‘then and now’, a ‘before and after’. I’m feeling so angry at the moment, I can’t shift it, so I’m …
Helpless
Hope (verb): Want something to happen or be the case Caveat: As always, all thoughts, musings, anger are my own. I know that it’s difficult knowing what to say – it’s now four months since Summer passed away and I …
Juggling Through Grief
Circus (noun): A travelling company of acrobats, clowns, and other entertainers which give performances, typically in a large tent. It does feel as though there’s a circus in my head: all of the frenzy, none of the fun. Picture the …
Misconceptions
Misconception (noun): A view or opinion that is incorrect because it’s based on faulty thinking or understanding People may think we don’t want to be reminded of their deaths We’re terrified that people will forget People may think there’s not …
Grief Disguised
Disguise (verb): Give a different appearance in order to conceal one’s identity We all know so little about grief. We know it’s not linear, that it can hit you at any time. But I think the majority of us who …
Is Anyone There?
Listen (verb): Take notice of and act on what someone says; respond to advice or a request I’ve felt so low this week. I had to message my boss earlier to say “really sorry, I’m logging off, this week is …